#TheCurvyGirl Podcast

Episode 6: Disconnect to Reconnect

#TheCurvyGirl Podcast - Episode 6 - Disconnect to Reconnect

Hello everyone,

I took a week off from sharing my podcast and I honestly needed it. It’s the best thing I could have done.  I couldn’t bring myself to write, I felt completely exhausted.

This week I’m talking about the importance of disconnecting in order to be more present. It’s so important for us to actually disconnect from the outside world and just be.

Disconnect to reconnect. 

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Hey guys, and I’m back with the next episode. This week I actually want to talk about taking time out. The importance of taking a step back, and just being.

In today’s day and age it’s become increasingly difficult for us to press the pause button and just be, to relax and take a time out. With responsibilities only increasing and the great need to constantly prove ourselves. It’s become extremely difficult to disconnect. This begins to take a toll on us mentally, physically, and emotionally.

As you may have noticed last week, I didn’t do a podcast. I decided to take a step back and relax. I sat staring at the computer screen for the longest time, unable to put words together that sounded authentic and the need of the hour. And honestly more than that I think I was mentally exhausted. After much thinking I decided that it’s ok not to have a podcast out, I’ll be of better service if I do take one week off and just rejuvenate.

Even though I have stopped working, I am currently busy studying for my CMA, besides that slowly starting the preparations for my wedding. There was just so much going on in my mind, that I didn’t realize that I was exhausting myself. All the plans and all the tasks I needed to complete before my wedding. I had to really step back and re-evaluate what I was doing. Anxiety was getting the best of me. It sure was time to really sit down and coach myself.

As humans we tend to obsess and worry about the future, what’s going to happen next, and before we finish one task our mind is already busy planning how to execute the next and the next and the next. Do you realize how exhausting this can be for your body? If mental workout could burn calories, I would be a size zero for sure.

I was obsessing and working myself up for everything I need to do once I get to India. Also equally excited to meet my family I was totally losing sight of what was important right at the moment. Right at the moment my focus should have simply been on reading that chapter, but no – I wandered too much into the future.

I finally created a list of all the things I had to do when In India and just kept it aside. I will pick this up when I am actually there and have to do this work. For now just relax Lakshmi. I read the chapter that I had to and decided to actually take time out to do something that I enjoy – reading a book. Reading a book has always been relaxing for me. It’s my escape when I need a time out.

It felt so good disconnecting for sometime and just being present in the moment. Not worrying about what needs to be done 2-3 weeks from now, was so liberating. We are only humans and actually need the time to re-calibrate. I urge you to take at least an hour just for yourself. Keep away all those gadgets and do what you enjoy the most.

There is a saying, “You can only fill another’s cup, when your own cup is full. Which goes to say, only when we have the energy within us can we help someone else. Helping people we love is great, but make sure you are taking care of yourself in this process too. Mothers are the best example of going above and beyond and placing everyone’s needs above her own. Mother’s you deserve a break. Please please please, take time out for yourself .

And during this time out, I actually began thinking of how much of an impact social media has actually had on us constantly being on the go. Besides having a full time jobs, social media takes up so much of our time. And why I think we need to disconnect often?

In this present day with technology growing faster than a human baby, I think it’s all the more important to disconnect and keep our gadgets aside for a few hours. With facebook, instagram, snapchat and so many other social media applications it has become increasingly difficult to actually be present and enjoy the present moment. We are constantly scrolling through and looking at pictures, videos and things other people are doing. We begin to judge ourselves and feel we aren’t doing enough to get there. This in turn spirals us into getting anxious and sometimes is a cause of depression.

No one has it together. A lot of photos are staged and show only 10% of what is actually going on. I use to be someone who wanted to click every little moment, share it on instagram with some really nice quote and make my life seem all perfect. Until one day I realized how much of my life is like this? 5%? 10% – max . Taking photos is wonderful, I don’t deny that, I still enjoy clicking pictures, but really not everything needs to be shared.

A lot of you may disagree with me, and that’s completely fine. To each their own.

But please stop comparing your life with someone else. None of us know the struggles each one of us go through, and honestly do you really think everyone’s life is so perfect? I doubt.

I deleted the social media apps from my phone too and I can’t begin to tell you how much more productive I was. I hit all my targets for the day and still had enough time to relax. Focusing on just myself and the need of the hour, rather than feeding into the “perfect” lives of everyone else.

So may I ask you take up this challenge too? Maybe just for a day and see how you feel by the end of the day. Notice how much more you are able to achieve my disconnecting. Notice how present you are. And most of all notice how you start to feel mentally, emotionally and physically.

Sometimes we have to disconnect to reconnect.

In the comments section below, let me know what you think. Will you be taking up this challenge? What is your take on social media and how it’s taking over the world one application at a time.

I’ll catch you guys next week. Bye.

Lots of love ❤

Lakshmi