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Episode 7 : Diets, Workouts & Intuition

#TheCurvyGirl Podcast - Episode 7 _ Diets, Workouts & Intuition

Hey Guys,

Diets & Workouts; the two scary words. These days it feels like EVERYONE is constantly stuck in the cycle of dieting and working out, then completely binging on the foods the craved for while on the diet and then getting onto another diet.

Sticking to a diet just seems so tough. If you are also stuck in this vicious cycle, then this weeks podcast is for you.

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TRANSCRIPT :

Hey guys in this weeks podcast I’ll be talking about diets, the craziness and why most of us fail sticking to one.

Are you one those people who spend boatloads of money on diets, gym membership but find it tough to follow through? Do you find yourself stuck in the cycle on of the latest diet in town and the best workout for burning said amount of calories? I know how you feel because I’ve been there.

All these diets give you a guarantee that if you follow word to word you will lose your target weight. You jump right in and half way through just feel like giving up.

Listen up, we’re wired differently, what works for your sister isn’t going to work for you. What works for you, might not work for your friend. Our body reacts in different ways and we need to learn to listen to what our body requires.

So a few months back I went on the Keto diet, something I did after I saw the results on my sister. She completely transformed and looked like a whole new person. My first month went very well, and I was powering through. Yes, I lot about 5kgs the and I was over the moon. However, I began to notice my body wasn’t too happy with how things were going.

I would crave for a small bowl of rice, to be able to function. Initially I thought maybe I felt like this because I’ve always preferred rice over roti. But slowly it began to take a toll on my mental health. I was finding it difficult to focus and power through the day.

After having a talk with my parents, I decided maybe keto wasn’t the best way for me. I felt really bad and I felt like a failure.

While talking to my best friend the other, I realized that as a child I would eat everything my mom would cook. And I never had any issues with my weight. Then how is it, that now as an adult my weight is such a big problem?

As a child we usually eat at home. Mom’s home cooked meals. Home cooked meals sure are the healthiest, be It the so-called “rice that’s filled with carbs which is bad for us” or dal with a dollop of ghee.

Eating out was a rare occasion. We limited our intake of processed food. However, boarding school and college threw this practice out the door.

With different body types, our struggles are different too. Thyroid, PCOS/PCOD, and various other hormonal imbalances make it difficult to lose weight. Steroids, antibiotics and surgeries also cause your body to go into a complete whack – thus making it difficult to lose weight. So please, before you get angry on yourself for not losing weight easily, take all of this into account.

Another very important thing is choosing the right dietician/nutritionist. It is so vital that you have a good dietician, nutritionist in this journey. Make sure they have your best interest in mind; not you being just another number in their list of clients. They are one of your most important team player. Imagine having a nutritionist who doesn’t really hear you out, your concerns, problems and then continuous to blame you when things don’t seem right? How discouraging is that.

Being someone whose tried various diets and I never truly enjoyed it. I always felt like I was depriving my body. And it’s never good to come from a place of deprivation. Deprivation pushes your body to retaliate (well that’s exactly how I felt).

It wasn’t until I came across Rujuta Diwekar, did things fall into place. Initially, when I came across her I felt she was just some other film star’s dietician. Her things will never be accessible. I was wrong about that. I’ve started reading her books and things are finally falling into place. I finally have a perspective on so many questions in my mind. All those things I would do as a child, is exactly what she recommends.

Your environment, the place your born, the family you are born into, your genes; besides our hormones have such a huge impact on your weight loss journey.

What does this mean?

As someone hailing from south India rice is something I can’t live without. One meal of mine has to be rice. As a kid I would eat rice for lunch and not once did I put on weight.

What’s my story?

At the age of 13, a doctor had given me steroids for an injury of mine, which totally messed with my hormones causing me to gain weight. I however, began to blame rice for this. Reading articles about how bad rice is, only reinforced that quitting rice is the best thing. This wasn’t helping me. I continued to put on weight and internally my body was screaming and crying for rice. As soon as I started having rice for one meal my weight in control, even though losing weight was difficult.

Portion control; Please remember that my portion size and your portion size can be completely different. Again, here too listen to your body. Your body knows just how much it needs. When I go out with my family, I’m told so many times that we’re just not going to take you into account. You anyways eat so little. But that’s the thing. My body can only take in small portions at a time. Eating more than my portion size causes severe acidity. So respect your body. Listen to it.

Even if you have to have smaller portions every few hours; do it. You know what’s best for you.

From all the diets and going to the gym & yoga if there is one thing I’ve learned is: Listen to your body. It speaks to you. Going against it only causes more frustration. Just because someone you know is following one of the “hottest” diets, doesn’t mean you need to follow that too. Find out everything about the diet, see if it matches your lifestyle and then sign up for the diet.

I personally prefer following what Rujuta Diwekar has to say, because it fits perfectly for my lifestyle & the food she suggests is what I’ve had as a kid.

The same thing goes with working out too. Find a workout that fits you. For someone it could be yoga, for someone else dancing. Your workouts shouldn’t be another task. Enjoy it. I love getting on the treadmill and doing a speed run for 3minutes, the energy it gives me. Besides that, doing a few workouts at the gym & yoga are my go to thing. What do you enjoy doing ? Go do it!

Basically, be it diets or workouts, enjoy them – listen to your body. Our 9-5jobs & the traffic anyways get the best of us, let this not be another one of those things.

Have you been on a diet? Has something really worked for you? What is your favorite work out. Let me know, leave them in the comment section below.

Love your body, don’t deprive it – after all you have only one of it.

I hope you enjoyed this week’s podcast. I’ll catch you guys next week. Bye.

 

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Episode 6: Disconnect to Reconnect

#TheCurvyGirl Podcast - Episode 6 - Disconnect to Reconnect

Hello everyone,

I took a week off from sharing my podcast and I honestly needed it. It’s the best thing I could have done.  I couldn’t bring myself to write, I felt completely exhausted.

This week I’m talking about the importance of disconnecting in order to be more present. It’s so important for us to actually disconnect from the outside world and just be.

Disconnect to reconnect. 

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Hey guys, and I’m back with the next episode. This week I actually want to talk about taking time out. The importance of taking a step back, and just being.

In today’s day and age it’s become increasingly difficult for us to press the pause button and just be, to relax and take a time out. With responsibilities only increasing and the great need to constantly prove ourselves. It’s become extremely difficult to disconnect. This begins to take a toll on us mentally, physically, and emotionally.

As you may have noticed last week, I didn’t do a podcast. I decided to take a step back and relax. I sat staring at the computer screen for the longest time, unable to put words together that sounded authentic and the need of the hour. And honestly more than that I think I was mentally exhausted. After much thinking I decided that it’s ok not to have a podcast out, I’ll be of better service if I do take one week off and just rejuvenate.

Even though I have stopped working, I am currently busy studying for my CMA, besides that slowly starting the preparations for my wedding. There was just so much going on in my mind, that I didn’t realize that I was exhausting myself. All the plans and all the tasks I needed to complete before my wedding. I had to really step back and re-evaluate what I was doing. Anxiety was getting the best of me. It sure was time to really sit down and coach myself.

As humans we tend to obsess and worry about the future, what’s going to happen next, and before we finish one task our mind is already busy planning how to execute the next and the next and the next. Do you realize how exhausting this can be for your body? If mental workout could burn calories, I would be a size zero for sure.

I was obsessing and working myself up for everything I need to do once I get to India. Also equally excited to meet my family I was totally losing sight of what was important right at the moment. Right at the moment my focus should have simply been on reading that chapter, but no – I wandered too much into the future.

I finally created a list of all the things I had to do when In India and just kept it aside. I will pick this up when I am actually there and have to do this work. For now just relax Lakshmi. I read the chapter that I had to and decided to actually take time out to do something that I enjoy – reading a book. Reading a book has always been relaxing for me. It’s my escape when I need a time out.

It felt so good disconnecting for sometime and just being present in the moment. Not worrying about what needs to be done 2-3 weeks from now, was so liberating. We are only humans and actually need the time to re-calibrate. I urge you to take at least an hour just for yourself. Keep away all those gadgets and do what you enjoy the most.

There is a saying, “You can only fill another’s cup, when your own cup is full. Which goes to say, only when we have the energy within us can we help someone else. Helping people we love is great, but make sure you are taking care of yourself in this process too. Mothers are the best example of going above and beyond and placing everyone’s needs above her own. Mother’s you deserve a break. Please please please, take time out for yourself .

And during this time out, I actually began thinking of how much of an impact social media has actually had on us constantly being on the go. Besides having a full time jobs, social media takes up so much of our time. And why I think we need to disconnect often?

In this present day with technology growing faster than a human baby, I think it’s all the more important to disconnect and keep our gadgets aside for a few hours. With facebook, instagram, snapchat and so many other social media applications it has become increasingly difficult to actually be present and enjoy the present moment. We are constantly scrolling through and looking at pictures, videos and things other people are doing. We begin to judge ourselves and feel we aren’t doing enough to get there. This in turn spirals us into getting anxious and sometimes is a cause of depression.

No one has it together. A lot of photos are staged and show only 10% of what is actually going on. I use to be someone who wanted to click every little moment, share it on instagram with some really nice quote and make my life seem all perfect. Until one day I realized how much of my life is like this? 5%? 10% – max . Taking photos is wonderful, I don’t deny that, I still enjoy clicking pictures, but really not everything needs to be shared.

A lot of you may disagree with me, and that’s completely fine. To each their own.

But please stop comparing your life with someone else. None of us know the struggles each one of us go through, and honestly do you really think everyone’s life is so perfect? I doubt.

I deleted the social media apps from my phone too and I can’t begin to tell you how much more productive I was. I hit all my targets for the day and still had enough time to relax. Focusing on just myself and the need of the hour, rather than feeding into the “perfect” lives of everyone else.

So may I ask you take up this challenge too? Maybe just for a day and see how you feel by the end of the day. Notice how much more you are able to achieve my disconnecting. Notice how present you are. And most of all notice how you start to feel mentally, emotionally and physically.

Sometimes we have to disconnect to reconnect.

In the comments section below, let me know what you think. Will you be taking up this challenge? What is your take on social media and how it’s taking over the world one application at a time.

I’ll catch you guys next week. Bye.

Lots of love ❤

Lakshmi

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#TheCurvyGirl Podcast – Episode 1 – Perfectionism

#TheCurvyGirl Podcast - Episode 1 - Perfectionism

 

OMG! It’s here, the very first episode. I am so proud of myself today ! I cannot tell you how happy it makes me to be able to bring this podcast to you. To be able to share my thoughts with you.

I hope you guys enjoy this podcast as much as I had fun making it. Keep listening till the end to get a sneak peak into next weeks podcast where I interview a very dear Aunt of mine.

Transcript: 

Hey guys, It’s our very first episode and I’m so excited. I kind of have butterflies in my stomach at the moment.

In today’s episode I talk about our greatest obstacle or one of our greatest obstacle – Perfectionism. And while trying to over come this, you learn some of your greatest lessons. Now do we ever completely come out of this tendency? I don’t know.

So what is Perfectionism?

Well according to the online dictionary Perfectionism is the refusal to accept any standard short of perfection – a standard that is faultless.

It’s also closely tied to anxiety and depression.

Perfectionism – what a prick.  I’ve been suffering from it for I don’t know how many years and it shows up easily in all areas of my life.

When we look at media outlets and the images portrayed there or when we watch a movie and expect our life to be just like that – please remember most of those images in magazines/online outlets are airbrushed images – I can guarantee you even models don’t look like that in real life.  A lot of movies are purely meant for entertainment and are in no way a standard that needs to be used to measure how successful or great we are.

Someone’s physical appearance should never be used to judge the personality or the life of an individual.

I went to watch the movie I feel pretty last night. The movie touches on so many relevant issues that we as men and women face on a day-to-day basis. Trust me, it’s a must watch. One of them being that we always feel the need to “look” perfect in order to be accepted by someone, or to be able to achieve or do a certain task.  Trust me it’s a must watch.

What is perfect in this context you ask – Well having that perfect body, maybe a size 2 or 4, being able to fit into those dresses.

Now how far is this from the truth? How many of us actually feel like that when we look at someone ? “Oh they’re beautiful, I just wish I could be like her, maybe then a lot more things would work out for me.” I’ve felt it! Guilty as charged. I’ve looked at someone and just thought to myself, I’m sure she has it easy.

In the past few months I’ve realized that being perfect doesn’t mean you get everything easy – honestly NO ONE IS PERFECT. We all have our quirks and you know what that’s what makes you so LOVABLE.

Your individuality, your crazy imperfections are what people love about you.  So why do we constantly try to dumb it down. Just imagine a world where everyone is perfect, where none of us make mistakes, we all have the perfect body, perfect make up, everything perfect to the T. How boring would that be? There would be no flavor, there would be nothing new to discover. We would simply be clones, and living life like robots.

You want to know what makes you beautiful:

Your craziness – Your ability to make someone laugh – that hug that only you can give – those words of encouragement – Your Presence that makes a whole world of a difference in someone’s life. That’s what makes you beautiful – Not perfectionism

Dressing a certain way, wearing a certain dress, necessarily doesn’t make you beautiful. It enhances your beauty- it enhances your personality  – but is never a barometer to judge how beautiful you are.

I wish I could go back 10 years and say this to my younger self – I wish I could tell her not to listen to those crazy people who say otherwise – To stop looking at the crap that’s being fed to us on T.V. Turn the damn thing off. To know just how wonderful, loved and accepted she is – that without her things wouldn’t be as wonderful as they are.

Let me be frank, as I was planning this podcast, I wasn’t too sure what to talk about , I felt I wasn’t ready (yup those perfectionist tendencies) , like I didn’t have all the materials I needed. But as a I put pen to paper I realized I was ready, everything I needed was there within me.

That’s the thing guys, when trying to get something out into this world always and always focus on the connection- always be real- share your heart and trust me people will connect more easily with you, people will appreciate you more.

When I look at someone who portrays that they have it all together it makes me nervous as hell. It seems unattainable to me, because it really is.  Perfectionism is unattainable.

Please show you’re imperfections, make those mistakes, it’s ok- don’t hide from it and share it with people. I think when we share, we’ll all feel a little less alone.

Don’t you agree?

So here’s an exercise I want us all to do this week:

On a piece of paper write down 5 things you hate about yourself.

Done?

Now either burn it or flush down the toilet

Take another piece of paper and write down 5 things you love about yourself, please don’t limit yourself to just the physical appearance. I want you to write down things you love about your personality- what makes you unique, your quirks– what are those qualities that makes you the lovable person you are. Here’s an example: People feel heard when they talk to me.

Done?

Now take this piece of paper, stand in front of a mirror and read it out loud. Read it like 4-5 times.  Stick it on the mirror and repeat it every single day, till you actually start believing this. And see how your life changes.  I believe in the power of writing things down and reading it, it’s definitely worked out in my life.

People love you for your quirkiness, for all that you bring into the relationship. Don’t try dumbing it down, don’t push that side of you into hiding and try to be perfect. If someone expects you do be perfect, trust me you don’t need them in your life.

We all make mistakes, and it’s these mistakes that make us who we are – and recently I’ve realized my mistakes give me an opportunity to get creative and try something new.

So every time you tend to beat yourself up for not letting things happen the way you planned it in your head, just pause. Pick up that phone and call a friend. Share how you’re feeling with them- friends do make things feel better.

And this is what I call a Power Circle

Why a power circle? Well it’s among these groups of friends that you gain your power back. Our power / energy tends to get sucked away from us when we focus too much on being perfect.

The power circle consists of those people who pick you up when you tend to beat yourself down, who knock some sense into you when you really need it.

Oh yes, here’s another thing, make sure the friends you have aren’t those who criticize you constantly. Constructive criticism is good, but never something that constantly brings you down. Keep those in your life, who are supportive, who you can sit down with and just be yourself.

I, for one am lucky to be surrounded by people who hear me out, who support me, who tend to knock sense into me when I really need it and when those perfectionist tendency comes to surface, know just how to remind me that its ok to be human.

You never have to have it all together to create something. You never need to be an “industry perfect size” to feel beautiful, the size you are, is perfect and just what your body needs. Respect that and love that. Move your body to feel energized, to help stimulate your mind, body and soul.  Most importantly learn to connect to yourself – to tune out the world and tune inwards.

The world needs you, so stop letting perfection get in the way of the greatness that’s meant to be yours.

In comments below let me know how perfection shows up in your life. Also share some of your quirky habits. What makes you lovable? It’s good to brag sometimes 😉

I hope you guys enjoyed this weeks podcast. Here’s a tiny sneak peak into next weeks podcast. Until then, have a fun filled week ahead, Bye.

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For the past 13 years I’ve been extremely insecure of how I look. I never felt like I was good enough. 

After all these years I’m slowly reaching that place where I am ok with how I look, ok with the fact that my thighs kiss each other. Ok with the fact that I have been bestowed with a curvy body and no matter what I do, I can never look like those girls I see in the magazines. 

Acceptance never happens over night – TINY STEPS . 

I’m starting this podcast because I know I’m not alone in feeling this way. These are conversations that need to take place. There are a whole bunch of women out there fighting the way they look. Unable to accept their body, unable to accept who they are. #TheCurvyGirl Podcast is here to be your best friend, to hear you out.

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I’ll be posting a new podcast every friday. 

Let me know in the comments below what triggers you and leave your suggestion on topics you would like to hear in our future podcasts.

Love Always ❤ 

Lakshmi